How to make your woman smile

26 Ways to make your woman smile

(would be nice if someone would actually do all the things on this list )


1.  If you like her, say so


2.  Hold her hand at any moment… even if it’s just for a second


3.  Hug her from behind


4.  Leave her voice messages to wake up to


5.  When she is upset, hold her tight and tell her how much she means to you


6.  Recognize the small things… they usually mean the most


7.  If you are talking to another girl, when you’re done talking, walk over and hug her and kiss her… let her know that she’s yours and they aren’t


8.  Write her notes or call her just to say "hi"


9.  Introduce her to your friends…as your girlfriend


10.  Play with her hair


11.  Pick her up (she loves it even when she says to put her down)  I can do without that one… don’t want the poor guy to get a hernia


12.  Get upset if another guy touches her and she doesn’t like it


13.  Make her laugh


14.  Let her fall asleep in your arms


15.  If she’s mad at you, kiss her


16.  If you really care about her, then (we all know this is a tough one) TELL HER


17.  Every guy should give their girl 3 things:

·        A stuffed animal (she’ll hug it every time she goes to sleep)

·        Jewelery (will treasure it forever),

·        One of his t-shirts (she’ll most likely wear it to bed)  Or use it as a pillow case if it doesn’t fit 


PS – Don’t forget to bring her flowers or something special once in a while.


18.  Treat her the same around your friends as you do when you’re alone


19.  Look her in the eyes and smile


20.  Hang out with her on weekends


21.  Kiss her in the rain 


22.  Kiss her just for the heck of it


23.  If you’re listening to music, let her listen too  Better yet, take my hand and dance with me


24.  Remember her birthday and get her something, even if it’s simple and inexpensive, it came from YOU, it means the world to her


25.  When she gives you a present on your birthday, Christmas, or just whenever, take it and tell her you love it, even if you don’t (it will make her happy)  Something else I can do without… don’t lie but do break it to me gently


26.  Always call her when you say you will.  It may not seem like it – but when you don’t, it does hurt her and makes her think you don’t care.  So call – even if you can only talk for a minute.

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There are times when you can do things by yourself…

and times when you can use a little outside help.


Earlier this week, I noticed my bath tub was leaking.  It needed to be recaulked so that became my Saturday project.  Friday night, during our phone date, B gave me a great suggestion… after applying the caulk (which he jokingly insists on pronoucing "cock" and of course we had lots of fun with the double entrendres  ) smooth it out with a damp sponge.  Worked like a charm… no more leaks!  It wasn’t that big of a home improvement job but I got a lot of satisfaction in doing it myself.  Now, if I could only afford to tackle the rest of the things that need to be fixed around the condo… LOL!


Last night B called to tell me he had left his wallet on the train after taking his kids home.  Needless to say he was worried, not so much because of the credit cards and other ID’s but because the wallet also contained his monthly train pass.  When you’re on a budget, having to replace something that’s not cheap really throws you out of whack… I can sympathize with that.   


I kept B company on the phone while he waited for the train he was on to get back to the station.  I also said a little prayer to St. Anthony, asking for B’s wallet and train pass to be returned to him.  For those who don’t know, St. Anthony is usually petitioned to help find missing items or people.  I’ve asked for his help many times before with success and this time was no exception.  When the train pulled into the station, the conductor recognized B and handed him the wallet, pass and all… a passenger had turned it in to the conductor.  Whew!!  It’s nice to know there are still honest people in this world.  Also good to know you can count on some outside help when you need it.  Ahh… the power of prayer. 


Here’s a little information on St. Anthony for the curious….

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What’s Your Love Style?

***Your Love Style is Agape***
You are a caring, kind, and selfless partner.
Unsurprisingly, your love style is the most rare.
You are willing to sacrfice your world for your sweetie.
Except it doesn’t really feel like sacrifice to you.
For you, nothing feels better than giving to the one you love.
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What Type of Writer Should You Be?

***You Should Be a Song Writer***
You have the ability to evoke emotion, tell a story, and hook someone…
In a very small amount of words, perhaps with some deft rhyming.
Even if you can’t write music, you can sure write compelling lyrics.
Lyrics so good, people will have them stuck in their heads!
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Senior Prom, College Graduation…

and all the cooking and preparations that went into getting it all ready makes for one tired but happy and proud Mom.  Also managed to fit in a movie date last Friday with B (saw the DaVinci Code which we both thought was good). 
Would have posted about Jason’s prom and Clara’s graduation sooner but between being exhausted after the weekend and bombarded when I got back to work, there was no time. 
Jason looked so handsome in his tuxedo.  His date, Miriam, put red tips in his hair to match the red chunks in hers.  They made quite the cute couple… in fact all his friends looked great that night.  Teen People magazine was there to take pictures and interview some of the kids for their prom edition next year.  If Jason’s picture makes it, you can be sure that I’ll buy lots of copies for him to autograph.
After the prom, Jason and the rest of Humble Offerings, along with some friends, drove down to Egg Harbor Township for a concert they held on Saturday.  Poor kid was pooped when he got home later that afternoon but came along with me when I dropped Clara off at the graduation dinner in the evening.  I rented a car for the weekend and was nervous driving on the highway since it had been a while… by Sunday, I was like an old pro… LOL.
Clara’s graduation was lovely.  It was held in the college auditorium… unfortunately the lighting wasn’t very good which explains the dark pictures I took of her when she was sitting down.  She looked so cute in her cap and gown… she wore flip flops so she wouldn’t slip going up and down the stairs or on the stage.  Words cannot describe how incredibly proud I was to see her receive her Bachelor of Arts (actually she only got the cover… the college will send the actual "sheepskin" later).  Of course, I  
Things got a bit chaotic after the ceremony and I wound up taking only one picture of her with some of her friends.  No one thought to take any pictures at the party we had afterwards in my home.  Not that Jason and I got to enjoy the party since we had to take Nelson back home because he had to work that evening.  No worries… we’ll take family pictures later since Clara got to keep her cap and gown… maybe have portraits done at Sears or JC Penney.
I took Monday off since I knew I’d be too tired to concentrate on work.  After dropping off the rental car, I went to B’s job with some leftover party food for lunch.  To my relief, he enjoyed my cooking although he found the potato and egg salad a little bland… this is from the guy who gave me a piece of the saltiest licorice candy I had ever tasted in my life. 
Yesterday, B had a meeting in the city and came to pick me up from work.  I gave him a tour of our open space which he thought looked like a funky warehouse (I agree).  It’s always nice to spend time with him but 3 times in a week is a record I don’t think will be surpassed for a long time. 
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Rest in Peace, Titi Carmen

  You are loved and will be terribly missed. 
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Love Profile

***Your Five Variable Love Profile***
Propensity for Monogamy:
Your propensity for monogamy is high.
You find it easy to be devoted and loyal to one person.
And in return, you expect the same from who you love.
Any sign of straying, and you’ll end things.
Experience Level:
Your experience level is high.
You’ve loved, lost, and loved again.
You have had a wide range of love experiences.
And when the real thing comes along, you know it!
Your dominance is medium.
You tend to be the one with more power.
You aren’t a total control freak in relationships..
But of course you don’t mind getting you way!
Your cynicism is low.
You are an eternal optimist when it comes to love and romance.
No matter how many times you’ve been hurt – you’re never bitter.
You believe in one true love, your perfect soulmate.
And if you haven’t found true love yet, you know you will soon.
Your independence is low.
This doesn’t mean you’re dependent in relationships..
It does mean that you don’t have any problem sharing your life.
In your opinion, the best part of being in love is being together.
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Ever have one of those days…

when things keep going wrong?  I did. 
It started Thursday afternoon when I found out that my company will approve raises soon but my boss didn’t put me on the list for one.  She gave me a "song and dance" when I asked why and suggested I look for another job.  If I’m offered a postion with more money she will counter.  Apparently playing games and wasting someone else’s time (not to mention my own) are the only ways I’ll get an increase when I’m not even  receiving the kind of salary my experience and work performance merit.  I love my job but knowing that my boss is taking me for granted really hurts.  I’d hate to give up the perks I now enjoy but realize that integrity, loyalty and hard work above and beyond the call of duty are no longer appreciated.
I decided, for the time being, to focus on having a good time with B.  We agreed to meet in Hoboken at the NJ Transit Terminal (aka Hoboken South) after work and spend the night and most of Saturday at his place.  After a quiet morning and early afternoon, all hell broke loose at work around 3:45 but I managed to get everything resolved and leave the office by 5pm.  I called B to let him know I’d make the 5:45 ferry to Hoboken South.  When 5:50 rolled around and no ferry showed up, I  asked at the information desk whether the schedule had changed… normally the ferry runs every 15 minutes.  I was told that the ferry no longer runs during the week but I can take the Hoboken North ferry and catch the light rail to the Terminal.  After a quick call to B to let him know of the change in plans (and subsequent lateness), I boarded the ferry only to find the light rail was nowhere in sight at the Hoboken North pier.  Another passenger told me the light rail stop is on the other side of town but Washington Street is a few blocks away and I can catch a bus to the Terminal.  So much for getting correct information at the information desk. 
I called B again to tell him yet another change in plans… he’s waiting at the platform when I get off the bus.  After the afternoon I’ve had (and since it was also Cinco de Mayo) we decided to grab a margarita before heading to his place.  No sooner did I step off the curb onto the cobblestone street, than I trip over one of the old rail lines, go flying and land hard on my left knee.  Being the big klutz that I am (which is why my ex husband said I "have all the grace of a stumbling elephant") I tend to trip and fall a lot and my left knee takes the brunt… it’s been banged up quite a bit over the last few years.  With this, on top of the day I’ve had, it was hard not to
B helped me clean off my knee, suggested we go straight to his place and offered to grab a cab instead of taking the 15 minute walk from the train station to his apartment.  As it turned out, the knee wasn’t as bad as I feared and didn’t stiffen up during the train ride so I was able to walk.  Once we got to his apartment, B gave me a bag of frozen carrots to keep down the swelling.  I’m happy to say the rest of the evening and next day went very well. 
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Love & Marriage

It’s so quiet at work… 2 people in our department are out due to weddings.  One is in Florida for her cousin’s wedding.  The other is now headed to the Dominican Republic to be married.  We had a breakfast for her yesterday… a low key bridal shower.
It’s not hard to get caught up in her excitement… she’s been telling us of her wedding day plans since she started working here in February.  It makes me kind of wistful though.  I remember my excitement when Rick and I married almost 15 years ago (we lived together and had our kids first).  The wedding was small and intimate, mostly because we had very little money and time to prepare.  We wanted to be married while Rick’s mom was visiting from Puerto Rico.  Father Jones, who was St Mary’s pastor at the time, gave us 2 week’s notice because he was leaving on vacation.  Still, with Mom’s help (Rick’s not mine), I put together a nice reception in our tiny, cramped apartment, complete with a lopsided 2 layer wedding cake which I baked and decorated with the words "The Best Things In Life Are Worth Waiting For".  That was Rick’s idea which he got from a commercial… it was for beer I think… LOL. 
I thought I’d cry at my wedding… instead I had a stupid shit eating grin the whole time.  In retrospect, I should have paid attention to Jason who was 3 years old at the time.  When Father Jones asked if anyone knew of a reason why the wedding shouldn’t take place, Jason cried out "Noooooooooo".  The kid’s a psychic, I tell ya…. LOL.
It wasn’t all bad… there were years when we were happy or at least thought we were.  However, I was an insecure young woman with very low self esteem and Rick manipulated that to his advantage… not a good basis for a lasting marriage.  Still I don’t regret being with Rick for 2 reasons… Clara and Jason.  I can’t imagine my life without them.
I can’t help but wonder… was that my one and only shot at a life long relationship?  Considering how it turned out, I hope not.  Considering how I honored my vows and did my best to be a good wife while he cheated and eventually left our kids, it doesn’t seem fair.  I want a good, solid, loving relationship.
It’s said that for everyone there is someone.  Is there someone out there who will want to spend the rest of his life waking up next to me and with whom I’ll want to spend the rest of my life waking up next to?  Perhaps I shouldn’t dwell on this too much.  It’s depressing to consider the alternative… waking up and growing old alone.
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A weekend with the Fab Four

I spent the better part of my weekend going through my Beatles collection… putting magazines and books in plastic bags with boards, cleaning the items I have on display and photographing them (results are on display in my photo album).  There’s so much!  To date, I took 73 pictures and had to stop because the digital camera battery had to be recharged.  Of course I did all this while listening to Beatles songs.   
Had a slight mishap with one of the dolls… George’s left arm came off while I was cleaning it and the socket piece fell inside.  While trying to manipulate the socket back in place, his right arm came off and that socket fell inside as well.     After spending a frustrating hour fussing with the sockets, I decided to use Crazy Glue to attach the arms.  Gotta love that Crazy Glue!  Unfortunately, the doll is no longer worth as much as before the accident but what the hell… not like I’ll ever sell any part of my collection.  My plan is to use one of my kids’ bedrooms (after he or she moves out of course) as a home office/workshop and decorate it with my Beatles items. 
Hope you all had a good weekend too!
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